People can usually put themselves into 4 different categories. They look like this:
Do you have just too much on your plate? Do you wish for 28 hours in a day or an 8th day of the week? or are you here? ( see below) Is your life one constant emergency to another? Stress and confusion and frustration?
or are you just so overwhelmed that you take the polar opposite approach and look like this guy ( see below)
or are you here?
Which picture do you see yourself being? Do you ever get to resemble this ? Now there are times in our life where we are put into emergency mode, that is out of our control. You can be in the middle of having some you time, like reading a book, and your child falls and breaks their arm and you spend the day in the ER. But if every day is spent in the ER, then we have a problem. The most healthful place to be is in Balance.
Personal soapbox: If you are catching yourself comparing what your balance is and what someone else is, then you will be miserable. Some people can look like the first picture and they do function with more on their plates, others- no so much. So I hope you aren't comparing yourself to another person. This is about YOUR balance. My balance as a single woman and my balance as a wife and mother of 3 children is very different. So just something to keep in mind, okay?
What keeps you from spending time in balance? Compare to your day to day right now to these categories. Is your goal balance? Have you ever heard anyone on their death bed wishing they would have had more time at office or had spent more time with a cleaner house?
Here is another writing assignment:
List something that if done perfectly in your life, would result in an amazing transformation in your life. So, with these writing assignments as a reference guide, you can now make a priority pie. It might look something like this:
Well, okay you might have different clip art, but I want you to start by identifying 4 areas of your life that you want to make a priority. IE: the blue labels on the outside of the pie: self, family, work, community.
Once you have ID'd your 4 priorities, then list what end result you want to accomplish. IE: the green inside the circles. IE: you realize you want to make more time to exercise, you need more fun time with your family, you need to improve you listening skills at work and you want to serve in the community somehow.
The next step is then to break your big picture goal down to something that you can do. IE: the red labels inside the circle. You can workout 3 times a week, you can set aside one night a week for family fun night, you can listen to a self-help communication cd on your commute to work, and you can volunteer once a month at the school to read to your child's class.That might not seem hard to some people and it might be a lot to swallow for others. So that is where I am going to stop this week.
Your Home work then is:
1- List something that if done perfectly in your life, would result in an amazing transformation in your life.
2- make a priority pie by A) listing 4 areas of your life that you want to make a priority, B) then ID a big picture goal, the end result, and then one or two mini goals of what will get you to the end result.
Good luck this week! I'll see ya next weekend.
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